He wants people to know that it’s OK if you’re not feeling it or want to give up. Michael is concerned by how much pressure Locktober can put on people who are new to the chastity scene. However, he says: “If you stick through it your body will adjust.” “My only issue with it is that a whole month of chastity is too long for most that don’t have any experience in being locked,” he says. He thinks Locktober is “a great idea” for those looking to embark on their chastity journey – but he does have some reservations. “The only time we ran into some logistical issues is flying but the plastic cage can make it through airport security fine,” he adds. He now keeps his chastity device on at all times. Shaw and his boyfriend never intended that he would become permanently locked – but as time went by, he could see few reasons why he would want to take his cage off. “At this point I forget what it feels like to be unlocked,” he says. He has been wearing a chastity cage for more than 500 days continuously, and he has charted his journey on OnlyFans. Shaw isn’t taking part in Locktober because he is, as he describes it, “permanently locked”. Eli Shaw is one of those who has been helping the people of Twitter to explore chastity this October. Locktober wouldn’t even be possible if it weren’t for the professionals out there offering support and advice to those starting out on their chastity journeys. There are tons of reasons why people can’t continue with Locktober.” Chastity pros worry that Locktober is ‘too long’ for newbies At the end of the day, this is a recreational activity and people need to or want to stop for a variety of reasons – maybe their work is really stressful, for example. I think that’s terrible and it’s such a horrible expectation.
“But ultimately, as in all sexual things, your physical and mental health are the priority and I think Locktober has grown from this fun little challenge that you want to give a go to almost like, ‘If you don’t do it properly, you’re somehow not a valid submissive’. He thinks Locktober “can be a good thing and it can be something fun”. Michael isn’t actually taking part in Locktober this year – he prefers to explore chastity at his own pace. Locktober often involves giving somebody else the key to your cage. It’s not so much focussed on pleasing yourself, it’s about gaining enjoyment from pleasing someone else.” I enjoy the kind of delayed gratification and there’s sort of a building anticipation, and then there’s also something quite nice about focusing your sexual energy on another person. He was already into other kinds of kink, such as bondage and sportswear, and was encouraged by men he was having sex with to avoid masturbating for a couple of days before sessions to heighten the experience. Michael found his entry route into chastity organically.
“Kink is such a wide, catch-all term – there’s so much to explore within that, ranging from a simple jockstrap to full on leather bondage.”
“I think sex in general should be fun and exploring different things that are of interest is part of that,” he says. He is currently “self-locked”, meaning he is wearing and controlling his own chastity cage. His experience has been “a lot of fun”, he says. Like Kevin, Michael started getting into chastity quite early on – he was around 19 years old when he first tried it out. Trust and kink go hand in hand.” Consent is key when it comes to Locktober and chastity Individuals that don’t respect that are not welcome. “Overall the kink community is very safe and aware of boundaries.